Finding Ms. Right

How ironic is it that I’m a lady yet I’m writing about finding the Ms. Right. I’m not being mistaken about this and I would make it clear that I’m not mistaken about my identity as a female, I asure you that I’m 100% woman. (hehe) But yes, I really am going to share my thoughts and realizations about finding the “right” woman.

If you are woman, a lady or a girl like me, I’m pretty sure that you’ve atleast read a book or an article about finding Mr. Right. Personally, I think I’ve read a lot (as in!) and I even search over the net for this. Of course, I got a lot of ideas and I even started to form that ideal guy in mind. And in the end, I still got the conclusion that you have to pray and wait for that guy because he still might be a work in progress. That’s very true.  And I don’t get disappointed each time I read and hear such things.

For a lady like me who’s still waiting and praying (hard) for my God’s best, I can’t help sometimes to feel impatient about it. But lately, as I had a talk about this thing with a friend and my mom, there came to me a realization that made me feel like I would like to ask for the time not to go fast and to still like the time of waiting.

Why? Because, I’ve realized that if I was praying for the right man for me, I think that he too, is praying hard for the best one for him. So if he would meet me now that he has been molded by God,  I would likely say that it would be a mess. If we, women, think that we deserve nothing but the best, I think true men thinks about that too.

So before men start looking for the right women, I think that we, ourselves, should also look for the best women in us. And how would that be possible? Here are some guidelines to check:

1.       A woman does not find her worth on the things she owns and wears

-I can remember one preaching of our pastor where He showed us a 1 thousand peso bill. He asked us that, if he would give it to us, are we going to accept it? Of course, all of us give him our loudest YES. Then he crumpled it and stepped on it several times. After picking it up, he again asked us the same question. Again, without any hesitations, all of us gave him our loudest YES. The same principle goes with our worth, the things that we have and own will not change who we really are and are value. Especially in the eyes of the Lord.

2.       A woman  must know that life isn’t all about vanity  

-Like what one of my favorite verses says, “Beauty is fleeting and charm is deceptive, but woman who feras the Lord shall be praised” (Proverbs 31:30). Our outward appearance will all soon fade but what’s inside will remain, and if it’s the Lord that’s in us, our beauty will surely shine.

3.       A woman must know how to give herself respect

-If we would like to be respected, we must first know how to give it to ourselves. In thelightest sense, we must know how to dress ourselves properly. I’m not saying that we must put about 4-5 layers of clothes but we must always see to it that we choose to always have decency. If a man knows that you know how to value yourself, he then would value you more.

4.       A woman must be selfless

-As soon to be mothers, I believe that a mothers would say that she is full after seeing that there are 4 slices of pie and they are 5 in the family.

5.       A woman looks for long-term commitment

-A woman does not just look for someone who’s likely to have pictures with to post on social media accounts and to have someone whom she could bring over friend’s gatherings. What a woman looks for is a commitment, that means assurance to have someone who would guide her and would be with her through happy and though times.

6.       A woman knows how to submit and to support

-As to what has been commanded in Ephesians 5:22-24, “ Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.  But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.” This is God’s design for the family and the church.

7.       A woman loves unconditionally

-Not only for the women, but also for the men. If we trully give our love, it must be like from  1 Corinthians 13:4-8. We must love others how God showed us His love that even we fail Him a thousand times still His love for us remains.

8.       A true woman has an established relationship with God

-Lastly, the most important part of being the right woman. Having a relationship with God. I believe that everyone’s number one lover is God. And if we do not know how to have a relationship with God, we would also not be able to pray for our partner, be gentle in spirit in times our temper is being tested and to be still amidst all the storms that would come in our lives.

In all these guidelines, I’m honestly still a work in progress. And I know it would take me a long time to develop all these. But if we would think that it this is for our God’s best , I think that would be the sweetest part.

So what else do you think are the qualities of a Ms. Right?

Thank you for reading Loves! God bless J

Why Pity Yourself

Ever felt like you just can’t get anything you want? That somehow in your life, you feel like you’ve given your everything and still nothing happens and why do others just hit into those things so easily? Or maybe you feel like you are just a nobody that deserves nothing?

Well, you aren't alone! As a newbie in the corporate world, I struggle a lot in this area. These questions really became my questions. I felt like my name was the very last on the list- being the least. And with the things that I do, I feel like I don't deserve what I'm getting.  I started to wonder if am I really supposed to be in the place where I am now. It seems like I'm nothing and I'll never get anything. I even covet those what other people have and what they could have. In short- I pitied myself.

 The feeling was horrible! But I thank God, because it is in these times that when you call upon Him, that He would surely respond to give you peace and comfort. And with that, God was able to make me realize several things and make me remember His promises. And here are the best of my realizations and reminders on how to cope up in times like this:

• Have a thankful attitude.

    Instead of counting the things that you don’t have, why not count the things that you have. Better yet, count those that money can’t buy. Surely, you are well blessed! Even try to be thankful if others also receive their blessings. God surely has a purpose why He blessed those people. 

• Remember that your reward is in heaven.

    If you truly believe in God, you know that your reward isn't here on earth but it’s in heaven.  If you’ll read Psalm 73, you could see that the Psalmist talks about how the wicked people get all the best in the world while those who believes in God have to endure a lot of sufferings. Thinking about the situation, it is already a big blessing for He allows other people to gain the riches of the world to mold us, His children. You see, other people find their own securities in their material wealth but for us, we place our strength in the Lord, knowing that in everything, He would be with us, providing for us and protecting us.

• Trust God's Heart

If in this moment you find it hard to trust God, I strongly encourage you to do so. Our minds are very very limited, but God’s isn’t! We only see our present struggles but God already knows what will happen, you just got to keep on holding on.  I could remember a song that goes “Like tapestry, He’s weaving you and me, to someday be just like Him. God is too wise to be mistaken, God is too good to be unkind. So when you don’t understand, when you don’t see His plan when you can’t trace his hand, TRUST HIS HEART.”

So why pity yourself, when you know that God is in you and He has great plans for you?  May you always remember this promise of the Lord:

^" For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." -Jeremiah 29:11

Love and Hugs,

Yna Ercia <3

Renewed For A Purpose

It’s almost two years since I first posted in this blog. If you are a colleague, a friend, relative or anyone that, by any chance, had a glimpse on my blog, you somehow know that I write about my style and fashion.  Remembering how I got into this- it’s my third year in college and one of my subjects required us to put up a blog of any theme or topic we want. Since I’m a fashion enthusiast, I didn’t find it hard to choose what my blog would be about. I actually included food reviews and I came to a blog name of Fashion for Food. I was still in tumblr that time since that’s where most of my classmates were into. I enjoyed the idea of posting your outfits and looking for different kind of food, writing something about and having some people to like what you have posted. (Plus I’m getting a grade for my subj too). So when I was done with my school requirements on blogging, there came to me a hunger. Yes, a hunger to write more and post more. After my semester that year, I tried looking for a good blogging platform and different fashion blogs, being so much inspired to write and post my photos of my clothes on the web. Then finally, I came up here.  My first posts here were just reposted from my tumblr and lookbook. At first, I can do my posts regularly and I’m so much amazed how some people can see the things I’m posting. But of course, I’m a student that time and I’m in my last year to be specific so my time decreased and decreased that I post once a month or in two months. Until finally, I graduated and found a job, then it took me even half a year to do another post. 

I would be lying if I say that it’s just because I’m busy that’s why I can’t do any post. (Well, it really takes a lot of effort to put up an outfit that is blog-worthy, for me tho) But more than that, it’s really one of my motives on writing to, somehow, become successful in fashion blogging, getting those sponsorship and getting paid for what I’m doing. Though, I know that it’s possible to earn from blogging. But I came to a point where I was always looking for the latest trends in fashion and even coveting those stuff that are impossible for me to buy. I got so hooked that I even lost my own style because I want to be like this or that blogger.

If you've read my previous post, Press on, you might have seen that one of my goals this year is to come back to blogging. I've been praying these past weeks about this and there’s something in me that I really want to continue writing. Until last week, after doing my quiet time, I took a photo of the verses I’m studying and had the idea of just posting it on my instagram account. I have no idea but I was so amazed that even through that simplest way, I was able to share God’s word to other people. Also, as I was browsing over the net for inspirational blogs, I've found a very interesting post and just shared it in my facebook account and there again, I never thought that the Lord will move in the most unexpected ways that the simple shared post will also bring inspiration and God to other people. The feeling was so overwhelming, having to share God and His word to other people. So after thinking over those things, I feel like God is calling me to a new perspective. That is to write posts that would be inspirational and more about HIM.

It actually took me several days to come up to this post, but I really pray that God is really leading me to write more about this. Well, I was also thinking of putting up a new blog but… I believe that this blog would be a great testimony of how could change a little girl who’s obsessed with how she looks outside into a woman (I hope) who’s able to share what God is working inside her.

"Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. 2 Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. 3 For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. 4 When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with him in glory." - Colossians 3:1-4

So there, I hope and pray that this post could also help you examine yourself and know where God is really leading you. Maybe you could share it so we could pray for each other?

Thank you for reading and God bless!

-Yna Ercia <3